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Issues: separation, divorce, remarriage

Separation, divorce and remarriage are important aspects for understanding the recent troubles of society. The concept of separation and remarriage and evaluating the issues regarding these need to be cultivated not for avoiding judgemental perspectives of the society but to understand the deep-rooted problems with its association.

Separation and divorce are fairly common social aspects and with the changing time, it is being accepted in the society as well rather than treating it as a taboo. Due to several marital problems, people opt out to separate themselves from their conjugal partner and take the decision to divorce. With the ongoing time and with the changing circumstances, people may or may not take the decisions of remarriage. The addition of children might sometimes change the vision of taking divorce and it is found that individuals act with the betterment of their children in that process of separation accordingly. 

Divorce and separation

The marital stability is dependent upon several aspects of the individuals. The couple’s financial status is one of the major aspects in order to understand the scenario of divorce and separation. Apart from personal disagreements and significant issues between couples. The Indian government has provided significant grounds to the individuals for appealing the divorce. The reasons for divorce would be taken into consideration in this context. A survey has been conducted recruiting the Indian participants to analyse the reasons for divorce among them and the contributing aspects would be discussed further. 

  • Lack of commitment from the partners has been enlisted as the major reason for divorce among Indian couples and 70.6% of participants have agreed with this statement. Usually, one of the partners blames the other for not showing enough effort to save the marriage. Lack of commitment after the marriage and not getting the expectations fulfilled has been made responsible by the participants as the leading reason for separation and divorce. 
  • Incompatibility is another reason for growing apart among couples. The shared values need to align among the partners to live together happily. However, lack of alignment in the shared values is the troublemaker in this context.  Along with that, religious difficulties, sexual difficulties and marrying too young have been found as the other leading cause for divorce and separation.
  • Communication problems such as too many differences in opinion and as a result excessive arguing have been identified as one of the leading causes of divorce. Along with that, conflict over family responsibilities and over money are also the leading reasons. Long-distance relations also enhance the ability to communicate well. 
  • Physical and mental abuse and extramarital affairs including infidelity has also been identified as the main reasons for separation
  • Too many health problems of one of the spouses are also identified as the leading reason for divorce among the couples and 25% of the participants have agreed to this statement.

Legal ground of divorce

  • Being cruel to the spouse is the major legal ground for the separation
  • Adultery and infidelity is another legal aspect
  • The presence of sexual disease in one of the spouses is another legal aspects
  • If one of the spouses is missing for 10 years , then the process becomes legal

Divorce process 

For a mutual consent divorce in India, a marriage certificate, income tax statement are required to finalise the divorce. One of the spouses can make an appeal for divorce in the court if the other party is not willing to give the divorce. Although, the couple need to mandatorily wait for teh six months for getting the divorce with being separated in this given timeline.

Remarriage

The concept of marriage after the first time changes and the process is very much different from the first time to the individuals irrespective of their gender. In the second marriage, people are less likely to deal with the problems like premarital sex, parental approvals, income status. In remarriage, both the spouses’ children are more likely to live together whether in some cases the children of only one spouse live there. It has also been found that in the Indian context, children find it stressful to witness that their mother or father is remarrying. Children in high conflict families are benefitted from the divorces of their parents and can gain mental peace after the divorce process. But divorce is justified as people tend to find happiness out of their unhappy previous marriage and are courageous enough to break the societal norms of the conservative mindsets of Indian society. 

Remarriage has been seen in the younger couple and as well as among the comparatively older couple after the late 40s and 50s as well. In these scenarios, children do not find themselves pressured to take one side of their parents or go with the feelings of loneliness and fear for the broken family. 

Conclusion

It can be concluded that the mindset of the Indian people are evolving around the divorce and remarriage concept and people are remarrying without any pressure on the partners of their choices. The reasons are enlisted as well in the context. External affairs from both sides make a negative impact on the bond of a couple. Financial incompatibility and domestic abuse make it unstable in the growth of bounding between married couples.